It was only like last year since we met, but it was really 3 years ago. And

last week was our 36th month of a happy relationship together. And next week, July 11 will be our 13th month of a really serious relationship for lifetime hopefully.

I`m not an expert but I`ve learned that when you`re in a relationship…..

ALways tell the person how you feel… Say it. Always tell how much you love them. Action speaks louder than words, but we need words to understand the action dba. Kahit out of blue, say it. For me it`s one of the many things to assure ur partner. And diba everything will be ok if you always hear those words. When ur still starting, sanayan nyo na ang isa`t isa maging vocal para it would be easier to express what you feel when ur naiinis, overjoyed, etc. Trust me, communication is the main key for a harmonious relationship. Alot of couples i know, and syempre napagdaanan ko na, whenever they feel something, they just keep quiet, and then they end up having LQ kasi yung isa clueless why is he/she suddenly became like that or whatsoever…

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Empathize. Put yourself in someone else’s shoes. Rather than impose your own expectations or attempt to control them, try to understand how they feel, where they come from, and who they are; and realize how they could also love you back just as well. Don`t expect a relationship to be happy all the time. May bio-rythm din ito, sometimes ur in high, sometimes in low, dun nagwowork ang relationship. UNDERSTANDING and no expectations. Lalo na when ur still starting pa lang, syempre masaya at first, habang tumatagal, nakakainis na sya, nakikita mo na mga flaws nya. Ganun talaga… The important is, ur both willing to work things out. Wag makipagsabayan lalo na pag may disagreement, although sometimes u can`t help but to argue talaga kasi u think wala ka naman kasalanan. Whatever, basta at the end of the day, think and dapat magka-ayos na kayo.

Love unconditionally. If you cannot love another person without attaching stipulations, then it is not love at all, but deep-seated opportunism (one who makes the most of an advantage, often unmindful of others). If your interest is not in the other person as such, but rather in how that person can enhance your experience of life, then it is not unconditional. If you have no intention of improving that person’s life, or allowing that person to be themselves and accepting them as they are, and not who you want them to be, then you are not striving to love them unconditionally.

Expect nothing in return. That doesn’t mean you should allow someone to mistreat or undervalue you. It means that giving love does not guarantee receiving love. Try loving just for loving’s sake. Realize that someone may have a different way of showing his or her love for you; do not expect to be loved back in exactly the same way. Great expectations, great disappointments =)

Realize it can be lost. If you realize that you can lose the one you love, then you have a greater appreciation of what you have. Think how lucky you are to have someone to love. Syempre when we`re in a relationship, we expect it to last forever, pero open your mind to the possiblities na pweding mawala ito. Basta for now, cherish what you have and alagaan nyo.

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REMEMBER THESE :

*You must love yourself before you can love another.

*There is always the risk of getting hurt, but that’s part of letting yourself fully love and trust some one. Being hurt could be long-lasting and could hurt more than anything in the world.

*Realize what you have while you have it, and care for the person you trust.

*If something comes to an end, try to let go rather than holding on; it’s for the best.

*The idea of love is fueled by childhood fantasies. The love shown in movies, as obtainable as it may be, is rare to say the least.

*You just may find your soul-mate sooner than you want to.

*If you feel any doubt of love your partner has for you, it is probably true. when you give and receive love 100%, you will have no doubt in your heart.

*Don’t ask for love – you should receive love because your partner wants to give you love – not because you want it from your partner.

*Do not force love – it will come in good time, it will come.

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LOVE GURU daw ang mood ko ngayon